The Polyamory Toolkit

A Guidebook for Polyamorous Relationships

The book focuses on specific tools people can use to address the common issues and deeper aspects of a polyamorous relationship. This work includes topics such as: Jealousy, Compersion – finding joy in your partners’ joy, Communication, Mitigating Triggers, Creating a Solid Foundation, and so much more.

Chapters Include:

  • And NOT Or  –  Learn to see others as adding to your life instead of replacing something 

  • Uncomfortable vs Wrong – Learn to distinguish between these two perspectives

  • Breaking Habitual Patterns –  You don’t have to respond based on your past

  • Place of Assistance – How to help your partners while staying true to yourself 

This is an easy to read and very useful book. More than 25 useful tools in bite-size pieces for anyone involved in Polyamory, considering Polyamory, or for that matter, many of the tools are useful for all relationships. I have found this book to be more helpful than any of the other books I have read on Poly.

It’s fantastic! I got it, started reading and didn’t stop until I finished it! Huge CONGRATULATIONS!

The book was super useful. I recommend it to everyone who asks me for poly advice.

I loved it … our family bought 3 copies to read together. We went through the entire thing, book club style

I’m laying here in bed at 10:30 on a school night, tears leaking out of my eyes. All of you who know me know this part– I’m the mono slave of a poly guy. And I struggle. I almost didn’t buy this book because I thought “what can a book that was written by poly people, for poly people hold for me?”. I’ve been doing this for eight years now, I know what’s coming and that we will handle it together.

And by page 26, I know that I’ve been given a gift. A chance to further develop my skills to manage my part of this mono/poly dynamic. From a source I wasn’t expecting.

 

Just arrived last week! I intend to use it with clients also.

Sample Content from the Book

How To Meet People

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