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Power Exchange

“Submission is a gift and I should be cherished as the delicate flower I am” and other bullshit Mister Hank does not tolerate
Join Dan and dawn, an power exchange couple since 2001 and authors of the book Hearts & Collars, as they summon the mysterious “Mister Hank”, a power exchange leader who rejects the trend of ‘soft and cuddle’ power exchange and tells you why you should too. Mister Hank doesn’t just want the best for his followers, he demands it. He takes it. He smashes down walls and claims that inner submissive that wants to be free. This class addresses decision making, self-confidence, ego, identifying strengths, and transforming you into someone completely living up to their full potential. Create in yourself that kind of person who belongs in the seat of power.

Rock Solid Power Exchange Foundation
Dan and dawn, in a full time power exchange relationship since 2001 and authors of the book Hearts & Collars, will cover agreements, discipline, styles of power exchange, collarings, and everything else you might need to know to build a solid Leader/follower relationship. They will  share how the challenges (and what to do about them) of moving from fantasy to a working, real-time, power exchange household

Combine Polyamory and Power Exchange…Successfully!
Dan and dawn, authors of the books Hearts & Collars and The Polyamory Toolkit lead an interactive class on how to successfully combine polyamory and power exchange! From when the commonly accepted ideals of these relationship types seem to come into conflict, to keeping power exchange healthy in the midst of new relationship energy, as well as the issues of vulnerability and security that power exchange thrives on but polyamory can challenge, we will give you actual tools you can implement to assist all your relationships.

Living Power Exchange your way
Join Dan & dawn, authors of the book Hearts & Collars and a leading couple in the TPE landscape, as they take a page out of the Buddhist technique of “tree bowl teaching” and offer Living Power Exchange your way, a class totally unlike any other – and that can never be repeated.
At the beginning of the class, Dan & dawn will take a variety of questions from the audience and from those, they will create a class that addresses those questions (as well as covers a range of TPE perspectives) to create a complete presentation that suits that exact audience.

Dan & dawn are especially well suited for this style of presentation. They will not only rely on a real time healthy growing relationship PE relationship since 2001 as well as presenting power exchange topics to audiences around the nation, but will also draw on the skills of having been co-host of the popular Erotic Awakening internet radio show.

Contract Workshop: A Practical Guide to Creating your PE Agreements
Dan and dawn, authors of the book Hearts & Collars lead an interactive workshop with attendees to create couple specific power exchange contracts. Attendees with enter with blank papers and leave with the format and ideas to create a document that gives their relationship a solid foundation for long term success. 

How Survivors can thrive in power exchange relationships
Dan and dawn, a lifestyle couple of many years and Great Lakes region title holders (2010) and authors of the book Hearts & Collars will discuss their experience of recovering from a traumatic past within the dynamics of a power exchange relationship. They will share how power exchange or activities that require you to be vulnerable can create an environment that allows for triggers, and what you can do to lessen the effect of such occurrences. Dan and dawn will not only share their experiences with these challenging moments, but provide tips on how we can heal from them within an power exchange dynamic
* For the creation of safe space, war stories (details of traumatic events) will not be shared during this workshop.

Mindfulness of a follower
Dan and dawn, authors of the book Hearts & Collars, lead a workshop on the most powerful and sought after aspect of a follower service. It isn’t how good you can clean, or how hot you look or how well you suck cock. Instead, it is the mindfulness that needs to be developed that allow you to flow seamlessly as a follower in a power exchange relationship in and around your Leaders needs, while at the same time finding an authentic followers heart. And…it is worth noting that the methods taught in this workshop will assist you in becoming a better cleaner, be more attractive, and give better head.

Power (Exchange) Tools 
Join Dan and dawn, a power exchange couple for since 2001, for an advanced class that gives participants tools to break free of the patterns and attitudes that allow us to fall back into vanilla ways or allows our emotions to rule the relationship. Clear concise tools that you can apply to a variety of power exchange situations. From communication problems to complacency and lots more!

Behind the Curtain – Creating Formal Events
Join Dan & dawn as they lead you through the steps of creating a formal event. Whether it is a formal tea, dinner or protocol driving play party, someone needs to be in charge and understand all the pieces involved in creating such an event. The perfect formal event can be complex, but it needs to appear seamless for those being served. They will share the steps, success and pitfalls they’ve learned with running formal events over the last 20 years.

Kneel for me slave…except on Tuesdays; Rituals and Protocols
Join Dan & dawn as they lead a workshop and discussion on actualizing protocol and ritual in your power exchange relationship. Both rituals and protocols can be a great way to keep your foundation strong, avoid complacency, and be a turn on. They can also be of benefit if you are more ‘relaxed’ power exchange. This call will also discuss general protocols (such as Leather).

Hearts & Collars
Dan and dawn, a full time power exchange couple and married partners since 2001, lead a presentation on navigating relationships that include both a full time power exchange dynamic as well as a loving and caring partnership. They will discuss topics such as ‘how do I punish the one I love’; does being in love with my slave give them too much power; does love temper some decisions…and should it? And should I marry my slave? And lots more!

Earning Your Seat of Power for Leaders
Anyone can label themselves anything…but it doesn’t make you one. Daniel Belum, who has been in a full time power exchange relationship since 2001 and led many others, leads a workshop on what it takes to actually be a good power exchange Leader. From skills around managing your ego, looking in the mirror, understanding what to do when you are wrong – yet still maintaining self confidence and relationship growth. Managing a full time power exchange relationship is not something you should do lightly – develop the tools to help you feel worthy of the devotion of a follower.

Sensuality And Sacred Sex

Breast Play For Nice and Naughty
Join us for a workshop on breast play! Bumping, bruising, pinching, touching and more! First an overview and safety, then we get ‘hands on’! This is an interactive workshop for those that want to get directly involved – bring your favorite toys, advise, experience, and breast to practice on (some demo bottoms may be in attendance or ‘byo boobs’)

Talking Naughty
Join Dan and dawn, an intimate lifestyle couple since 2001, as they share the fine art of talking dirty. Through discussion, demonstrations, and exercises, they will explore using talk as part of your scene and assist participants in finding and releasing their inner erotic voice. They will discuss getting started; getting over shyness; general vocal items; making sure you say what your partner will enjoy hearing; and approaches that range from soft and sensual to hot & slutty talk.

Are you hesitant to flirt because you feel awkward, forgot how or never knew how? Dan and dawn’s flirting workshop will help teach basic flirting technique as a communication tool. They will not only teach you some basic flirting techniques but also discuss how to get beyond any lack of confidence that stops you from meeting the people you are interested in. They will also discuss how to be an honest flirt – be clear in what you are looking for when you flirt. “It is true – Dan is a big flirt. But when he flirts with me, it always feels like a compliment instead of being slimed on”

Slutty Sex for Real Relationships
Is it time to move from fantasy to real life? Dan and dawn will discuss how to make the transition from having a desire to be naughty to making it part of your real life. Whether you are interested in adding kink to an existing relationship or adding it via a new one, or if you want to give non-monogamy, swinging, BDSM, or other kinks a try, then this workshop will help you be prepared. With lots of stories, examples, and things you can try at home (or the grocery store), Dan and dawn will address facing jealousy, body image issues, self-confidence, health issues, and trust/fear issues as well as what you can do to keep things as safe as possible in your adventure. “The fantasy was hot and great, but after the lust has worn off, who did we see when we looked at each other?”

Sacred Sexuality – Sense O Rama
Dan and dawn, a lifestyle couple of many years and founders of the Path of the Qadishti Sacred Sexuality program, lead a fun and interactive workshop that will focus on stimulating our various senses. Ignite your inner passion with touch, sound, sight, smells, and taste. Explore tips and tricks to reach out to your partner in new ways and keep your body awake and in the moment.


Sensual Spanking
Dan and dawn, a lifestyle couple since 2001, will demonstrate the art of erotic spanking. If you are interested in using it as a style of foreplay or as an act within itself, join us as we discuss some of the ways to get started, how to approach your lover, being the center of attention, hand techniques, bringing focus to the relationship, safe words, the pleasure of pain, spanking toys, and after care.

Find (and negotiate) Pick Up Play for the Shy…and Everyone Else Join Dan and dawn, active in the kink community since 2001, for a workshop on how to find people to scene with at an event. Then, once you find them, use these specific tips for safer pick up play negotiation. This class is great for new people to the scene as well as those that are shy, introverts, or just haven’t found the groove to find consistent play!

Erotic to Extreme: Chemical Play 101
From mild sensations to pain that will make the biggest masochist say ‘never again!’, learn the fundamentals of Chemical play! Lots of hands on opportunities as you discover this underutilized play.

Introduction to BDSM
Dan and dawn, a lifestyle couple since 2001, will share with you everything you need to get started on your BDSM journey! From basic “how to’s” with many of the most common BDSM toys (such as floggers, paddles, and simple bondage) to topics such as ”setting up your scene” and the difference between BDSM and Ds. They will discuss not only the play itself, but also the very important aspects to take place before a “scene” (such as negotiation and safety) as well as after a scene (aftercare, sub drop, and keeping your toys clean). They will demonstrate many toys as they share their experience and some ideas of what to expect – and what to avoid – as people get started in BDSM, either as a bedroom activity or as active participants in the lifestyle.

Sensual BDSM
Want more from BDSM? Join Dan and dawn as they discuss bringing (or returning) a sense of connection, intimacy, and desire to your BDSM scene. They will discuss what we can do to take your BDSM experience deeper and to avoid getting stuck in BDSM being a purely physical or social experience. “We walked into the dungeon and heard people talking about politics and fishing; a top leaned down and whispered to his bottom about one brand of rope over another; another ‘top’ was holding court in the middle of the space, showing the newer players how awesome he was. We want much more from our scenes. We want a connection and intimacy that will be more than just a physical – swing, hit, swing, hit – scene”

Sexual BDSM
Bondage with a blow job? Flogging with fingering? Spanking while having sex? Canning and cunnilingus? Breath play while butt banging? Yes please! In some scenes, not only does BDSM directly include sex, but they are an integral part of it. But negotiation, toys, safety, topping and bottoming all have to be evaluated and adjusted in a way that is different than either a standard BDSM or sex session. Join Dan & dawn and some willing demo bottoms and tops for a workshop that includes how to, when to (and when not to!) to create scenes that include both lashes and licks!

The Introverts Guide to the Kink Community 
Join Dan and dawn, national presenters and closet introverts, as they explore how people who are introverts by nature can thrive in the kink community! They will explore tips and tricks related to interacting and dealing with the BDSM scene – like munches & events when the ‘social scene’ isn’t your favorite place to be; plus, finding play partners and hits and tips for dealing with extroverts – and info for how they can help deal with us as well!

Negotiations – Six Styles to get the scene you want – or need
Dan & dawn, creators of the popular negotiation cards Kink Starter lead an interactive workshop on a new way to think about – and do – negotiations. Designed for both tops and bottoms, they explore how to negotiate for specific play or how to start with a blank page letting the story write itself, and negotiate without negotiations.

Plus, they will break out the Kink Starter cards and show how they can be used either as a tool to define a scene or allow for inspired creativity!

The Ritual BDSM Toolkit
Join Dan & dawn as they discuss (and demo aspects of) Ritual BDSM. They’ll give examples and ideas of various BDSM rituals and assist you in how to create your own. From focuses on transformation, self-exploration, or rites of passage, Dan & dawn will share with you about the many they have participated in, as well as the ones they’ve lead. They will talk about incorporating elements, focus, setting intention, and what to do when things don’t go as planned.


8 Poly Tools
Join Dan & Dawn, authors of The Polyamory Toolkit, as for an advanced class that gives participants tools to break free of the patterns and attitudes that keep us trapped in discomfort, fear, unhappiness and jealousy. No theorizing or quoting from scholarly viewpoints – get into the weeds and put the tools to work!

(note: the above is the 75 minute version of the class; 16 tools and 24 tools are available as half day/full day intensives or multiple class sessions.)

Alchemy: Turn Jealousy Into Compersion
When things are quiet, we believe in polyamory. Unlimited love, compassion, sharing, our partners happiness. And then we see them with another partner and it suddenly all comes crashing around us – jealousy, anger, fear. We want polyamory…but how do we create that feeling of compersion we know we are capable of? Join Dan & dawn, authors of The Polyamory Toolkit,  as they talk about tools you can apply to cultivate compersion and joy.

Mash-Up! Managing multiple power exchange partnerships
Sheila has a sub. And a slave. The slave is also a switch. A switch that tops a puppy. A puppy who owns a boi. A boi who dates Sheila. Join Dan & dawn, who between them have a variety of power exchange (as well as polyamorous and vanilla) relationships as they discuss tools to help navigate multiple partner power exchange and alt relationships. The answer might start with time management and physical logistics, but heart management and sexy logistics need to be accounted for too!

Polyamory Change Management
Change is inevitable, essential, but also, risky and can be scary! Join Dan & dawn, authors of The Polyamory Toolkit, as they explore and provide tools around change! When a new person enters or a new person leaves; levels of desire and need; and even hobbies and interest. Things do change; pick up some strategies to go with the flow!

Polyamory Dating Guide
Join Dan & dawn, authors of The Polyamory Dating Guide, as they explore the in’s and out’s of polyamory dating – from finding people (both online and in real time), writing profiles that stand out, how to approach people, and even dating as a couple (including addressing unicorn hunting, ethical considerations, and more)! “There are thousands of polyam people out there that want to date – love is abundant, if you know where to look!”

“It’s Just a Flesh Wound” – Reframing Polyamory
Relationships in general are tricky, but polyamorous relationships can include some specific additional difficulties. Join Dan and dawn, a polyamorous couple since 2001 and authors of The Polyamory Toolkit, as the provide some key tools to help reframe the mindset of scarcity and monogamous thinking! They’ll not only suggest great resources and tips, but offer direct feedback from their experience (both good and bad!) to assist you in building a foundation to create a joyful polyamorous lifestyle!

Balancing NRE with MRE
Does the flood of new relationship energy impact the foundation of your mature relationships? Join Dan and dawn, who have been actively practicing polyamory since 2001, as they discuss and share tools to balance that NRE with your existing MRE (mature relationship energy). They will discuss concepts such as ‘fair vs equal’ and how to work from a place of assistance to help the existing relationships from feeling like they are ‘last year’s model’ as well talk about the challenges when you add BDSM, imbalanced liblidos, and power exchange. 


Hypnokink Share and Do!
Dan and dawn, certified hypnotist, lead a gathering of both hypno-kinksters and hypno-curious in two part session. We start off with a guided conversation around hypnosis and how it can be used consensually and for kinky fun!

And in part 2, we do so hypnokink! Participate as a Tist or as a receiver, with clear safe boundaries. Don’t worry, you won’t be made to act like a chicken…unless that is your kink!


As a Presenter: How To Be Educational AND Entertaining
Dan and dawn, a lifestyle couple since 2001 and longtime presenters believe that it is not enough to be educational, but you must be able to truly capture your audience’s attention as well. Drawing on not only their experience in presenting for the kink, leather and spiritual communities for over a decade as well as training and facilitating meetings in Corporate America, they combine this with both Dan’s experience with community theater and dawn’s experience with creating and facilitating rituals. They share how they bring it all together to create an experience that keeps the audience’s attention so that the message the presenter is sharing can be heard.

How To Be Seen By Event Producers
Presenters are a dime a dozen. For every event that Dan & dawn put on, they reject twice as many applicants as they accept. This class will focus on the tools you need to be noticed and stand out when you put yourself out there. From Bios to Class Titles and more, find out what it takes to get those bookings you are after!

Ritual and Spiritual

Enticing Desire Through Confidence 

The first step to enticing desire from another, is understanding that when  feel sexy and confident in your own skin, that energy radiates out and magnetizes people towards you. Learning how to feel sexy isn’t just about what you look like, no matter how much our culture is glued to that belief, it’s about how you think and feel about yourself, confident that you belong and are worthy of attention and desire. Join Dan and dawn as they share tips and tricks on appropriate confidence to help you come into your unique expression of radiance, aliveness, confidence and receptivity.

Uniting Your Sexual and Spiritual Powers

Join Dan and dawn as they lead you on a journey of discovery. How does your sexuality fit in with your Spirituality? How does your Spirituality fit with your Sexuality? Do you see them as separate, or only about peak experiences or something that is cohesive and works together? They will give some examples of their experience with sacred sexuality and then lead you on a guided meditation to help you see the connection within yourself. 

Sacred Sex – Elevate through Giving and Receiving 

Dan and dawn lead a workshop on how to help make your sexual experiences more. More connected, more intimate, more sacred, and more fun!
After a quick discussion of some some existing examples of rituals and methodology,  they will lead the class on some simple (and some more advanced) techniques to help you create your own sacred sexual experience!

Bodywork: Power of the Yoni Massage

The Yoni massage is a sensuous form of bodywork that can build trust between the giver and receiver as well as connect the receiver to their inner sensual nature. Join Dan and dawn as they teach you methods for relaxing the receiver and to bring emotions to the surface. The goal of the yoni massage is not orgasm, but to help the receiver get into a space where they are free to express their natural, powerful, orgasmic nature. You may bring a partner (and lube/towel) to practice along with the demonstration. 

Empowerment Through Ordeal Rituals

Have you ever thought to use BDSM to help with your spiritual growth, personal growth, or even in celebration of a personal milestone? Join Dan and dawn as they share their experiences with how Ordeal Rituals have empowered them on their spiritual and personal journeys. They will cover steps to consider in designing your own ordeal ritual, how negotiation and aftercare with the facilitator of the ritual can be different than what we are used to, and other items one may not think of in this style of ritual. 

Ritual – Meeting Your Inner Beast

Whether you are a primal, a predator, a prey, or have an inner animal or beast, join us in ritual (using movement, meditation, etc) as we discover, meet and welcome our inner animal/beast in a safe setting, celebrating its existence and giving it a chance to come out and ‘be’. Feel free to dress the part for the ritual. 

Ritual – Releasing Trauma for Better Sexual Connection

Our bodies can store trauma and create energy blockages causing emotional numbness, and/or anger and fear, which stunts our sexual connection with our selves and others. Join us as we use ritual, movement, guided meditation and other tools to clear and balance our energy, chakras and selves from some of this trauma, allowing our energy to flow freely through our bodies, which helps with restoring our ability to connect.  

Ritual – Invoking Your Inner Succubus/Incubus Energy

Succubus/Incubus is a divine energy of sexual transmutation, moving pleasure into alignment with your goals, creating beneficial intimate relationships of all sorts, and understanding the vibration and flow of pure creative energy. both are divine energies that operate through the root and sacral chakras for balance, healing, pure pleasure, manifestation and more. Whether you see this as an archetypal energy or piece of yourself, let’s use ritual to draw out this energy and tap into our desirability by feeling sexy and confident in our own skin, radiating our lushness and magnetism. Nudity or anything that makes you feel sexy is welcome for this ritual.

Everything Else….

The Broken Vase: A victim, a junkie, and how the alt community gave them the tools to heal
Join Dan and dawn, co-hosts of 500 episodes of the Erotic Awakening Podcast, as they share the story of how they spent the past 20 years moving from self-centered, passive-aggressive, ego-driven and self-destructive to acclaimed authors, presenters, event producers, in a long term power exchange and polyam relationship and, most important, unreasonably happy humans.

Long Distance Relationships – Miles Apart, Hearts Together
Join Dan & dawn, long term polyamorous people and full time RV’ers, for a class on how to keep your long distance relationships alive and well! Tips and tricks to stay connected, grow, and maintain your relationships (covering both power exchange as well as loving peer based). This isn’t just a class of stories or telling you that it can be done, but some specific tools you can use in your relationships!

Self Confidence is Sexy
You’ve taken the big step and became part of the polyamory, kink, alt, swinging, or power exchange community. Now, people are falling all over themselves to fulfil your desires and help you find your authentic self…right?

Join Dan & dawn for a class that focuses on how to develop and maintain appropriate confidence. Appropriate Confidence is the self assurance that isn’t hinged on one specific instance of success (or crushed because of one instance that things go bad). It is an internal knowing that you are in the right place, you are enough, you belong,  and that you won’t be swayed by others views of you…at least, not for long. 

Podcast #1 to #653

Dan & Dawn are the co-host of the Erotic Awakening Podcast, the longest currently running kink and/or polyamory podcast on the web. Five million downloads, 650+ episodes, and part of their life since 2009. This class will introduce you to the idea of creating a podcast, from ideas to publishing your first one, as well as advertising and recognition benefits. And just for fun!