O.W.A.L – Older Women in Alternative Lifestyles

by | Nov 16, 2021 | BDSM | 0 comments

I’ve been running OWAL for a few years now. I created it after more than a year of thought and reflection and we started meeting in person at The Columbus Space. Then, we closed the Space after covid hit and have been meeting monthly on zoom since then.

Why the year of reflection? Well, I felt a support group for older women in the kink community was needed. I certainly needed it. Our bodies are changing as we get older. Our expectations are changing. Most of us have figured out what we need at this point, but it’s hard to find. We see all the younger people coming into the community and everyone’s focus swiveling as we are left standing like wall flowers. …….but I also didn’t want to embrace the word ‘old’. I was afraid that once I embraced that word, I’d start to feel old. That was not my goal.

I wanted to create something that would instead empower women. It would be about discussing things that we didn’t have anywhere else to discuss….in an environment that was safe and open. It’s not like we can talk about these topics during a loud dungeon party, and who would want to?

Anyway…..I finally decided to just jump in. And since then, a couple more OWAL groups have started up after the leaders talked to me about using the name.

I love this group and hope it continues to keep running strong. I get fed by this group of lovely older women. Some have been coming since the beginning, and monthly I get to meet new people as well.

So, if you are an older woman (50+ though I don’t card at the door) and would like to join us, we meet on zoom most 3rd Thursdays of the month. I have events created under my name with zoom links.

Because this is women only and we are talking about vulnerable topics, video is required.


If you are an older woman in an alternative lifestyles….come join us for a chat.

If you are a woman around 50 or older (not restricting age and will let you self identify if you think you fit in this category and will benefit from these discussions)….come join us at the next OWAL meeting.

Our modern society places a lot of emphasis on outer beauty, youth, material contribution and success in the world, and often discounts the unfathomable gifts that women over 50 possess and give. Ironically, women over 50 often discount themselves as they get older. They discount themselves because they think that age will affect their ability to have the life they want.

Join us in a circle of women that want to help each other as we age in alternative lifestyles. Unlike many of our counterparts, most of us are still determined to live active, sexual, fun lives. Let’s transform those ageist beliefs that don’t serve us anymore (e.g. you’re not attractive enough, you’re too old to start a new career or start a new relationship, you’re too old to make fun a priority, etc)

Let’s gather in a safe space where we can share our fears and triumphs in getting older with these changing bodies, and empower each other on our journeys through the passage of time. Let’s become confident ambassadors of our own lives with the help of those that have gone through the same issues, or will be going through them in the near future.

*This group is intended for those that identify as women.

*There is no age restriction but the group dynamic is focused on those of us that are 50 and over.

We will be open to discussing all subjects around aging and alternative lifestyles: kinky, power exchange, swinging, poly, etc.

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