Category: BDSM

  • Cupping – Fire Cupping

    Cupping This started out as a treatment in alternative medicine. It’s usually used with those that have chronic pain. But, like many techniques that started out in a different world…..it’s been tweaked into a bdsm play method.  I’ve only experienced cupping a couple of times. I love the pressure it creates.  At least 2 times…

  • Quilling

    Quilling Recently, I was able to experience a Quilling scene.  I’ve only experienced it once before at a Tapas at Kinky Kollege. Tapas is where they set up little stations and you get to try different types of play – rope, electric, whips, etc. A couple years ago they had a Quilling station. It was…

  • Role Play as a Kink

      Kink – Role Play Role Play – A form of play where partners act out scenes or fantasies while pretending to be someone or something they are not.  Common roles:  Teacher/student Angel/Devil Spiderman/Wonder Woman (sacrilege, combining Marvel and DC, I know) Cop/Criminal Prison Guard/Inmate Or in my experience: Wench/Tentacle Monster Why do people use…

  • Fetish – Orgasm Control

    Fetish – Orgasm Control As with any fetish, people are into orgasm control for a wide variety of different reasons and the only way to know for sure is to ask. Orgasm control and chastity are often deeply psychological kinks. That is, people do them for mental reasons at least as much as for physical…

  • I came across this idea for Topping – where did it go?

      Available on Amazon & Barnes and Noble   I came across this idea for Topping – where did it go? First….I’m not a top. I’m definitely a bottom. Though there are times that I top as a Priestess. I use BDSM energy to bring about desired transformation in the person that has come to…

  • Kink & Power Exchange is my Fetish

    I was talking to a University class recently about Kink and Polyamory. During the discussion, they taught me something about myself. While they were trying to understand the difference between kink/fetish and what I got out of kink. They simplified it nicely. I’ve known this….but the way they made it simple was great. …..we were…

  • A Weekend at Kinky Kollege

    A weekend at Kinky Kollege Oh my! What a much needed weekend!! Much much much needed! Exactly 2 years ago since our last event! And even that one didn’t have naked people. So, it’s been longer than 2 years. As an introvert, and covid paranoid….I thought I’d spend most of my time in my hotel…

  • Fear Play – The Dichotomy

    Fear Play – the dichotomy This is one of those types of play that is hard to describe…..but when there is a perfect storm, this really, really works for me. I’m not sure when this started (it had to be with Dan, I’m sure)..because usually if someone scares me, it puts me into fight/flight mode.…

  • Experience Junkies

      We are experience junkies. And though Dan doesn’t like to use the word ‘junkie’, I’m not sure what word is more fitting. We love to experience life and a lot of what it has to offer. Though, it’s easier for him to jump in the deep end for those experiences than it is for…

  • O.W.A.L – Older Women in Alternative Lifestyles

    I’ve been running OWAL for a few years now. I created it after more than a year of thought and reflection and we started meeting in person at The Columbus Space. Then, we closed the Space after covid hit and have been meeting monthly on zoom since then. Why the year of reflection? Well, I…