Tag: power exchange

  • The M/s Flag

          This is the Master/slave flag.    It’s been around since 2005, yet not many in the bdsm community know it. That’s because it’s for a small niche of the Leather and BDSM community….for those in power exchange relationships:  Doms/subs, Masters/slaves, Leaders/followers, etc.    I was told once that the straight vertical line…

  • Ordeal Rituals – Collaring Ceremonies

    We’ve had a lot of people ask us lately about collarings and ordeal rituals (both with collarings and in general). Obviously collarings come in all shapes and sizes…..we’ve been talking about them on the podcast recently and during an interview with Kuldrin’s Krypt. Episode 634 – Collaring Ceremonies Episode 418 – Collarings This is where…

  • How to Follow – Helping a Leader find their seat of power

    Believe it or not, not all Leaders come into their relationships full of confidence and know-how. Dan sure didn’t. I was his first submissive. He was my first Dominant. We learned this dance together. He did a great job showing a face of confidence, and taking risks that proved fruitful for our dynamic. But, there…

  • 2 Styles of Power Exchange Relationships

    There are many different styles of Power Exchange Relationships.    2 of the styles we talk about in ‘Hearts and Collars’ is Co-op and Military. Various other names can be used for these styles, but these are the ones we are using in the book.  These are the 2 styles we see the most… Co-op…

  • Ordeal Rituals in Power Exchange

      In our newest book, “[Hearts and Collars](www.heartsandcollars.com)”, we talk about the importance of ordeal rituals in our power exchange dynamic. We also discussed this during the Book Club of MAsT: San Diego last night. ********************************* For us, these ordeal rituals are a rite a passage. An ‘earning’ of the roles we are about to…

  • Self Publishing – Next Power Exchange Book – Turning our Polyam books into audiobooks

    Self Publishing – Next Power Exchange Book – Turning our Polyam books into audiobooks   Eleven years ago when we had ‘Living M/s’ published…..self-publishing was complicated and not common. We had thought of self-publishing, but a publisher reached out to us when they heard Dr. Bob was writing the forward. So, yay!!! our first book…

  • Permission Based Relationship

    While we were interviewing someone for the podcast a the other night, they used a descriptor that I  hadn’t heard of before in the years we’ve been living power exchange: a permission based relationship.    Well, that resonated with me. A permission based relationship. I had never thought of our relationship in those terms, but…

  • How Survivors Can Thrive in a Power Exchange Relationship

      This is a class I (dawn) have been teaching for many, many years. After our first OLF (Ohio Leather Fest) at the beginning of our relationship, I knew this was something I wanted to teach. People were asking questions about it and there weren’t many presenters that were willing to talk about it at…

  • ‘My’ Master ….word choice

    I came across someone’s post a few days ago that kept refering to ‘the Domme that I serve’ ….and it made me think/remember. When I talk about Dan, I usually say ‘my Master’ or ‘my Belum’ or ‘my Sir’. But, whenever I say it or write it, there is a little blip on my radar.…

  • EA601 – Self Bondage

    This week on the Erotic Awakening Podcast, @dananddawn talk with Katrina about self bondage! Why, how, and more! Plus they share what a therapist had to say about us! And listener feedback on our cunnilingus show. Plus fetishizing penis, worshiping penis, and cupping! -=-=-=-=-=- Find all things Dan & dawn at https://www.eroticawakening.com/ Links to mentioned…