past and future

past and future

Sometimes my partners ask me about where I see a new relationship going, but after years we have finally figured out we never know. Sometimes things start great and end after a few months. And I’ve had a few that started as a simple fun date and years later we have a...
break ups for poly people

break ups for poly people

Being broken up with sucks for monogamous people. I’m sorry to say it sucks for polyamory people as well. Now, there can be some benefits to poly in this regard – a partner might break up with me, but I may have other partners to help me through the transition....
My lover has a new lover and it isn’t me

My lover has a new lover and it isn’t me

Often someone shares with me this situation – me and my significant other have a great relationship and then they met someone new. And that someone is (not me). Now they don’t actually say ‘not me’, but regardless of what they say – the new person is more...
It’s Not Always Jealousy….

It’s Not Always Jealousy….

Just a little thought while i was meditating this morning….. Many of my writings on poly tools have to do with how to help us with jealousy…..but sometimes it’s not jealousy that we may need help with. Instead, it’s our own feelings of self-worth,...